other perspective

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In life, a lesson learned in your past that you will never forget
completely. When I was in elementary school, I got into a major argument
with a boy in my class. I have forgotten what the argument was about, but I
have never forgotten the lesson learned that day.
I was convinced that "I" was right and "he" was wrong - and he was just as
convinced that "I" was wrong and "he" was right. The teacher decided to
teach us a very important lesson. She brought us up to the front of the
class and placed him on one side of her desk and me on the other. In the
middle of her desk was a large, round object. I could clearly see that it
was black. She asked the boy what color the object was. "White," he
answered.
I couldn't believe he said the object was white, when it was obviously
black! Another argument started between my classmate and me, this time about
the color of the object.
The teacher told me to go stand where the boy was standing and told him to
come stand where I had been. We changed places, and now she asked me what
the color of the object was. I had to answer, "White." It was an object with
two differently colored sides, and from his viewpoint it was white. Only
from my side was it black.
My teacher taught me a very important lesson learned that day: You must
stand in the other person's shoes and look at the situation through their
eyes in order to truly understand their perspective.

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-Sya

Short Course for Biryani

I love to eat and interesting bout the recipies, specially from other country. Me and Mba Heni has a short course from Bushra on how to cook Biriyani (traditional food from Bangladesh). We are interested to the unique taste and how to serve. So, one day before, i called Bushra and asked to her please teach us to cook biryani, before she going back to her country (Bangladesh).

We came to Bushra's apartment at 2.30 and my husband deliver us. Heni came with her two daughters (Nadia and Dinda) and we directly started to cook Biryani. That day Bushra decided to cooked chicken biryani. We can cook Biryani also with mutton and beef. Before we started to cook usually we prepared meat, special rice and all condiments. The rice is different with daily rice we used, the rice is more longer and smaller (called: Basmati rice). Basicly, Biryani made from mixture of more than 5 condiments, rice, meat or vegetable and yoghurt. These are generally condiments, cloves, cardamom, cinnamon, chili pepper, coriander, bay leaves, ginger, onions, turmeric and yoghurt. Many steps to cooking this food, we used two fry pans, first cooked the meat and second pan to fry the rice, in this step, rice should half cooked. after finished cooking meat and rice, then put rice and meat together and mixed in one pan, after that cook again until rice cooked well. Or we also can use rice cooker to do that and takes time around 20-30 minutes. (Bushra..that is right??)





































["Chef Bushra" teach us how to mix well all the condiments]


To cooked biryani from prepared until finish takes time almost 3 hour. After we finish cooked Biryani, at 7 we start to take a dinner with Biryani ofcourse and eggcurry (yummy). That was delicious food, tasty and spicy. I should say thanx to Bushra and her husband to spare their time and place to teach us. That night was like a small "Biryani's" party. Aji( Bushra's husband) said, Biryani usually serve for special occasion and special person. So, my husband suddenly said to Aji, "Wow, thank you both..to serve Biryani to us"..(^_^)..Ofcourse, we all are special person.. We had a really good time that night.

Ps: In Japan too difficult to find the complete condiments, specially in Saga. But, we can order from other city like Tokyo, one company there provide many kinds of condiments.

-Sya

Garbage Management

I wondering how to manage garbage from one city, for example Saga city-Kyusu Island, Japan. In this case Saga is not too clean, we still find some garbage in the river or sidewalks, but here is still clean than my home town in Indonesia. My hometown, at someplace it is clean but in other places it can be dirty. If i compared with Singapore and some cities in Australia, Saga is not too clean, but Saga and probably all cities in Japan, have a good management for garbage. We should throw the garbage on ashcan depands on the materials. I found this way also happened in other countries but in Japan it is more strict. Ex: i saw in some place there is has 7 ashcan in front of cafetaria, that is for box made from paper or plastic, for bottle from paper or can and then for cup made from paper or plastic and one for organic garbage. Probably from that way the garbage management easily to process or recycle the garbage. To process the garbage, i just imagine, in someplace there is available lots of land to put and burn the garbage and smelly. But, in reality Saga have a big building at Yamato for processing the whole garbage from Saga city.
















[this is the EcoMall]


On that location i was really amazed cause the place is clean (very clean!) and the building is nice, looks like commercial building (i though, that is goverment office..). That place for burning the unused garbage, but outside the building we cannot see smoke from residual insineration or create some bad smell or something bad.. we still can breathe the fresh air. That building is named Ecomall. On that day, I went there and i saw in the first floor there is some space for table and chair to took our lunch and available some food stands. They also have an aquarium made that area more attractive and lively. One room in the left side from the entrance there is like a mini shop, they sell cloths, bags, shoes, house hold with low price, and also have a space for kids play ground, with a mini house there made from milk bottle and hard paper. And regularly there have a bazaar in the first and fourth week of the month. That is something new for me, cause the garbage management here is not happen in my country. I just wish my country will have a good garbage management like that. Japan does a pretty good job with their garbage.

-Sya

Conflict and Diversity

You know.. too many conflict happened in our life.. from smallest until huge one. And sometimes we didn't do anything, just stand in the same place to face the conflict and diversity surround us, or so many times we runaway to hide from them. Do not being a coward, face it with passion, verve and enjoy it.. search and take the red line from them, believe me.. you can find the better solution. You can try to fly like a bird, move out from the trouble and see whole mistake and problem from above..finally, you can see them very clearly and you will find other objective perspective and a boons than you expected before. i should say thanx to God, from many conflict and diversity i had, build me to be a better person day by day. I got the summery from many conflict i had, "Experience, is a collection of successful and happiness recipes". Diversity can be a source of harmony and conflict is essential to, ineradicable from, and inevitable in human life and also the source, cause, and process of conflict can be turned from life-destroying to life-building ends.

May,02-08
Saga,Japan
-Sya

If you cannot remove conflict from life,
why dont adjust your thinking about it?
If you can't beat it, join it.
why not try and see conflict
as the salt of life,
as the big energizer,
the tickler,
the tantalizer,
rather than a bothersome nuisance,
as a noise in a perfect channel,
as disturbing ripples in otherwise quite water?

Why not treat conflict as a form of life,

particularly since we all know

that it is precisely during the periods in our lives
when we are expose
to a conflict that really challenges us,
and that we finally are able to master,
that we feel most alive.

(Galtung 1975-80,3:501)